On Goal Setting & Vision Boards

I’ve never been a big believer in goal-setting. Especially when it comes to deadlines.

That might sound weird coming from a veteran superstar-level salesperson. I quadrupled one company’s sales in one year. I increased sales at another company by 700% in 18 months. How could I have done that without setting goals?

I have goals but I rarely put deadlines on them. Sometimes it’s necessary, of course. Like when you want to lose so many pounds by a certain date in order to have a chance to win a trip to Hawaii ūüôā

Here’s what I’ve learned: If you want something, you dwell on it. You fantasize about how you will feel when your vision becomes real. That’s why I don’t set goals. They are too limiting. I let my imagination soar and always add “or something better” to my wish list.

I currently have 2 Vision Boards:

  1. Lifetime
  2. 90 Days

When I get around to it, I’m going to add a 3rd Vision Board: 12 Months.

As part of my New Year’s resolution morning ritual, I’m pondering my Vision Boards at the end of my meditation. I’m dwelling on each area and daydreaming about how it will feel. I allow my daydreams to go beyond my limited vision.

One day I was daydreaming about my essential oil business and the daydream morphed into designing an essential oil retreat. A¬†light bulb went off in my head.¬†“I love that idea!” I said to myself. “I’m going to add that to my Vision Board!” Before I could even get up to get my Sharpie, I received a text invitation to be a presenter at an upcoming spiritual retreat. Can I present my Essential Oils and Spiritual Practice workshop and also provide AromaTouch treatments? (Wow, that was fast!) Within another hour I received another lead about a venue who wants to offer an essential oil retreat.


Be very selective about what you dwell on. And always say “or something better.”


My Love Affair with Frankincense

Bowl of frankincense

I wasn’t always in love with Frankincense. As a child being raised in the Catholic church, I’m sure I wrinkled my nose when I smelled the strong and distinctive smoke of the incense.¬†It always seemed like an olfactory assault to me. Now it’s a familiar throw-back and I¬†admit it stirs me at a deep level.

I had sampled off-the-shelf Frankincense essential oils at the health food stores over the years. It never appealed to me… but I kept trying to like it. I was intuitively drawn to the mysterious substance and thought maybe, like yogurt, it would¬†grow on me¬†if I kept trying¬†it in tiny doses.

About two years ago I was lucky enough to attend a yoga class that was incorporating essential oils into the practice. Near the end of the class, in preparation for savasana (relaxation/meditation), the teacher came around and placed a drop of Frankincense in each student’s open palm. We were instructed to apply the Frankincense to our third eye, in the middle of our foreheads. I wasn’t crazy about the aroma but whoa! it smelled familiar and somehow ancient.

Almost immediately after applying the Frankincense to my forehead, I felt tears streaming down my face. No accompanying sadness, just gentle, streaming tears. I enjoyed a deep, releasing savasana, and felt a bit high coming out of meditation, but grounded.

This was a yoga retreat and the following day, again during yoga, the same thing happened. We were given Frankincense to apply again during savasana, and once again, the tears came. Again, no sadness, just tears. And curiosity, of course.

This was the first time I had ever experienced this type of Frankincense. This was top of the line – pure and potent essential oil which was carefully harvested from generations-old trees in Somalia. It had an immediate and profound effect on me so when I got home from the retreat I started researching all about Frankincense.

I learned that scientifically, Frankincense is very high in sesquiterpenes. These chemical constituents stimulate the part of the brain that controls emotions. Sesquiterpenes delete bad information in cellular memory so that corrections and healing can take place.

Word got out that I was selling high-end therapeutic¬†Frankincense and I started getting phone calls from cancer patients who were referred to me. I could not keep Frankincense in stock because now scientific studies were coming out¬†about Frankincense shrinking tumors. I can verify that the moles and skin tags on my own body¬†continue to shrink and disappear as I continue to apply Frankincense consistently and often. That’s why I also take 2 drops under my tongue morning and night. If it works on outside skin mutations, it must work on any internal mutations as well… right? This was a suggestion I learned in a webinar by Dr. Axe, who teaches a proactive approach to wellness.

Let’s just say I haven’t even had as much as a cold in over a year, and I think it’s because I’m fortified with Frankincense!

Frankincense is considered the “King of Oils” because the saying among oilers¬†is, “When in doubt, use¬†Frankincense.” That’s exactly what I did when I woke up one morning with horrible anxiety. I didn’t want to feel that way! I grabbed my nearby bottle of Frankincense, took three or four deep whiffs and I immediately calmed down. That was the beginning of my love affair with Frankincense. My hero (sigh).

Frankincense also amplifies whatever other oils you may be working with. For example, if you are using oregano or melaleuca to support healing from an infection, adding Frankincense will enhance the effectiveness of the other oils.

Even though Frankincense is on the expensive side ($69.50 wholesale), it’s still a lot cheaper than Xanax, or a nervous breakdown, or a trip to the vet (yes I use Frankincense to support my senior dog’s wellness). There are 250 drops in a bottle and all you need is one or two drops per dose. When you break it down, it’s a good value (and I get my Frankincense free, by the way. I can show you how you can too if interested).

So why would I love Frankincense if it made me cry?

Frankincense seems to correct what needs to be corrected – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Frankincense helped bring to my conscious mind a sadness within me that needed to be dealt with. Until I used Frankincense that day, I had been successfully burying my pain by denying it existed. How can I be authentic if I’m hiding something from myself?

Frankincense facilitates communication between your perfect soul-self and your disconnected ego-self. Physically, Frankincense has been proven to permeate the blood brain barrier. Emotionally, Frankincense permeates the veil that masks our authentic selves. Spiritually, Frankincense is uplifting and grounding at the same time. That’s why it’s so often used to enhance spiritual practices like yoga, prayer, and meditation.

I’m still getting to know Frank (as I’ve started calling His Highness). He continues to impress the heck out of me and he’s my hero on a daily basis. Even though we’re having a love affair, I’m not possessive. I’m glad to share Frank with the whole world!

You can purchase Frankincense at my retail website: WISE WOMAN REMEDIES DOTERRA STORE. Contact me below if you’re interested in purchasing Frankincense at wholesale, or to find out how you can get it for free, like me


Recipe: “Pray” Essential Oil Blend


RECIPE for “Pray” rollerball formula, to be used during spiritual practice:

4 drops Frankincense
4 drops Myrrh
4 drops Sandalwood
2 drops Spikenard
2 drops Ginger
2 drops Patchouli
2 drops Ylang Ylang

Add above drops to a 10mL roller bottle. After adding essential oils to bottle, fill roller bottle 2/3 full with Fractionated Coconut Oil. Leave room so that you can shake the bottle to mix before applying to pulse points. Also, apply to palms of hands, rub hands together, cup hands over nose and mouth and inhale deeply.

Using this Pray formula will help ground you during spiritual practices such as prayer, meditation, or yoga. It will help you connect more deeply with what really matters, and will help heal any misinformation in your beliefs as well as your cells.

You can purchase a Pray roller ball formula directly from me if you don’t have the necessary essential oils on hand. I only use doTERRA essential oils for top purity and potency. Contact me¬†here: